A friend of mine who has Lyme disease wrote me recently, saying:
“So good to hear from you. I’ve thought of calling to ask if you have any special ideas or resources for dealing with the Lyme beast.”
I answered her as follows (edited):
A. Notice the image in your mind as you think of the word “beast.” Calling Lyme a “beast” probably makes it appear larger and more powerful than it really is, and probably more powerful than you are. If you were battling the beast that you see in your mind, would you win or lose?
What happens in your experience when you use some other word (and image) to describe Lyme disease? It is actually caused by very tiny little bacteria (with a really dorky name, Borrelia burgdorferi sensu stricto!) and it is only by a lot of them working together and ganging up on you that they can make your body sick. Using a different word (and image) for these little critters is likely to result in a more positive attitude.
Then you could go on to contemplate how your body could confuse these little bacteria, and sow dissension among them, so they can’t work together. When they are disorganized, your immune system can pick them off one by one. Do you know the story of Sergeant York, in WWI?
B. There is Connirae’s natural healing process in our book, Heart of the Mind chapter 20: “Engaging Your Body’s Natural Ability to Heal.” This process relies on the submodality codings that you already use to represent healing naturally, engaging the resources of your unconscious mind directly. This can be much more effective than a conscious “positive attitude.”
C. Here is another thing to try. I have not tested it, nor verified it, but it is something that I do naturally. It can change your outlook, and I’m very sure it can’t hurt.
1. First think of, and make a long written list of, all the sicknesses, injuries, and ailments of all kinds that you have recovered from successfully over the years, from little scrapes to potentially life-threatening ones.
2. Make a brief movie of each item on your list, from its onset, through healing and resolution. Then choose a still image from the movie to serve as an icon for the whole movie, just as an icon on a computer gives you easy access to the information that appears when you click on it.
3. Put all those icons into a large, close, colorful, simultaneous collage directly in front of you, so that when you focus on an icon, the movie plays. As you allow your eye to wander across the collage, each icon can burst into the brief movie of healing that it represents. This creates an experience and reminder of how effective your body is at healing itself from all sorts of illnesses and injuries.
OR
Put all the individual movies together into a long sequential movie that loops back at the end to the beginning, and start it playing endlessly in the back of your mind, where it won’t interfere with whatever else you are doing during the day.
OR
Put these movies together in any other way that is natural for you, in order to create a comprehensive database of all the times that you your body has successfully healed, and recovered from, an illness or injury.
Whether or not either of these options has any direct effect on the illness itself, at the very least it is likely to alter your state for the better, and that will have an indirect positive effect on your health. Feeling better is a benefit in itself, even if it doesn’t directly affect the disease, and there is pretty good research that your feelings affect the functioning of your immune system and overall health and resilience.
Although the last option (C) is something that I have personally done for years (At 75, I am healthy and not taking any medications—but of course I could just be lucky—one third of the people my age in the US are already dead.), I haven’t tested it thoroughly by teaching it to others, to find out how well it works for them. If you use it, I would appreciate your letting me know what you experience, and/or any questions you might have.
5 Responses
James Lawley
15|May|2011 1Thanks Steve for sharing your loving, thoughtful and practical suggestions for your friend. I am sure they will be of benefit to many people regardless of their illness.
It seems to me that although the blog makes the focus of attention the metaphor “beast” and the notions of illness/healing, most of what you suggest obliquely addresses your friend’s metaphor “dealing with”. In other words, their relationship with their illness.
Apparently, ‘deal’ has Germanic origins, meaning either to part (as in separate/distribute) or to participate (as in relate to/act on). Already that suggests to me some different ways of perceiving the situation:
- How do I part myself from (the effects of) this illness, or vice versa? (‘myself’ either being my body or my identity, for the latter the old Psychosynthesis meditation, “I am not my …” would seem appropriate)
- How do I participate in this natural process which (from my perspective) has got out of balance. (Even a healthy person’s body contains more non-human cells than human cells – without which we couldn’t live).
Taking the above as frames, it would be possible to devise a number of exercises giving a person the chance to experience different ways of “dealing with” their illness, out of which a new relationship could emerge.
Just some thoughts that came to mind as I read your blog. Keep them coming, they are rare gems.
All the Best, James
Steve Andreas
16|May|2011 2James:
Yes, of course, the focus is really on the person’s relationship to
the disease or illness (and whether or not the relationship is
empowering); thanks for pointing this out.
Changing the metaphoric representation of the illness from a “beast”
to something less menacing results in a change in relationship.
And creating a database or category of all the times someone’s body
has healed itself changes the person’s representation of their own
capacities, also changing the relationship.
I’d be interested in a sample or two of the kind of exercises you
propose for experiencing “different ways of ‘dealing with’ their
illness, out of which a new relationship could emerge,” because I’m
not sure what you have in mind.
Steve Andreas
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27|May|2011 3Thank you for posting this article Steve. I am a recent graduate of counseling/psychology, and have found that NLP has been so useful with my clients. Sadly, they do not teach NLP as part of the core theories in school. I’m so glad that I’ve found your site because you provide such useful information to those who really want to learn a unique therapy.
Joy Livingwell
10|Oct|2011 4Steve, am I correct in thinking that your personal version uses a robust database structure, including any counter-examples that didn’t heal completely with a go-to to how you would LIKE them to heal completely?
Steve Andreas
21|Oct|2011 5Yes. Well said.
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