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Solutions for Anxiety Training, an online conference (CEU’s available)

Six experts share their experience and insights.

I am one of six presenters in this online “conference.” My segment is titled, “Resolving Anxiety rapidly by directly changing its unconscious auditory and kinesthetic process elements.” Much of the content will be familiar to those who have been reading my blogs over the last year or so in regard to using Nick Kemp’s spinning feelings and tempo shift processes to permanently change the cause of anxiety. However, my presentation in the conference is better organized, and it includes demonstrating these methods with Ryan Nagy, the interviewer. I will also do a live video coaching call later (see below) in which I’ll do my best to answer any questions you ask.

Other speakers in the conference include Erickson students Dan Short and Rob McNeilly. Other presentations are by Carolyn Daitch, Bill Wade, and Carol Kershaw. There is also a bonus audio presentation by Michael Yapko, another student of Erickson’s. And there will be six live follow-up coaching calls where you can ask each of the presenters questions.

The conference is available in video, audio, and smartphone versions – you can watch online and also download a copy of all the materials to keep. The conference also has a money-back guarantee if you are not satisfied with it, so you risk nothing by signing up. Registration is open through Sunday, February 7th.

You can check out more about this online Ericksonian Conference.

 

Whoops! (A Playful Exercise)

Recently someone (unfortunately I have forgotten who it was, so I can’t thank them directly) sent me the interesting cartoon below by Randall Munroe http://xkcd.com/1582/

After enjoying it for some time, and sharing it with others, I started wondering if the principles could be put to other uses than just amusement. I revamped the story somewhat to the following:

“Picture a meadow in warm springtime, grasses and wildflowers gently moving in a soft breeze. In the center sits a small big-eyed creature with the power to escape from any visualized scene, and move freely throughout the mind/body that imagined it, leaving behind sparkling champagne bubbles of lightness wherever it goes. It looks up, glances around curiously, and then—whoops, where did it go?”

How did you respond to this? I got a very nice subtle bubbly/sparkly feeling throughout my body.

Notice that the phrase “sparkling champagne bubbles of lightness” can be replaced with any other description of a desired state, such as, “feathery silken threads of connection with others,” or “the faintest whispers of a song of happiness,” or “tiny morning dewdrops of clarity,” etc.

I have identified several criteria for doing this that I think makes the process most impactful:

  1. The general state (lightness, connection, happiness, hope) is the core of the phrase.
  2. The state is embedded in a more sensory-based description (sparkling champagne bubbles, silken threads, melodic song, morning dewdrops) to create a specific image.
  3. The experience is made subtle by minimizing it, either by implication (silken threads, dewdrops, whispers) or by using some adjective (tiny, faintest), or both (faintest whispers). This makes it easy to imagine, and less likely that it will conflict with the present state.

Algorithm

Take a minute or two to think what kind of state or experience you would like to have as an underlying background to whatever else is happening in your life at the moment.

  1. This will usually be a somewhat general state, such as calm, relaxation, love, etc.
  2. Embed that state in specific visual, auditory, and/or kinesthetic imagery.
  3. Minimize the intensity of this experience by presupposition or implication, or by adding a diminutive — or both.
  4. Put the phrase you have created into the little story of the big-eyed creature in the meadow, and enjoy the results.

One of my favorite sayings

One of my favorite sayings is a Japanese proverb:

                  “None of us is as smart as all of us.” 

Here are a couple of opportunities . . . .

 

Free Short Online Training on Anxiety

I was recently asked by a colleague to share something short and simple that could quickly be used by therapists to make an impact with people experiencing anxiety. It is included in a free anxiety solution “cheat sheet” and short training on helping folks with anxiety that has been put together by Ryan Nagy and Rob McNeilly, a student of Milton Erickson. The guide and training is free, you just have to give your email.

As you probably know, my way of working with anxiety is very different from that of most therapists. However you may find some useful ideas you can take from this resource. The guide and training will only be up for a few more days, so take a look now if you are interested.

 

Another review of Bandler’s phobia cure video

Jonathan Altfeld has an interesting and somewhat different set of observations and thoughts about Bandler’s demonstration that he developed without having seen my blog review, or the comments by others that I also posted on my blog not long ago. Here is a link to Jonathan Altfeld’s review of Richard Bandler’s phobia cure demonstration.

My colleague, Ron Soderquist, Ph.D, LMFT trained with Bandler, Grinder, and Milton Erickson in the 1970’s. I have used several examples of his wonderfully creative work with clients in my blog posts over the years; my favorite is “Meryl Streep Calling.” Here is another example:

 

Grief Resolution

Recently a long-time colleague shared his concern for his oldest daughter who had been stuck in a deep disabling depression for most of a year. She had been longing to have a child, finally became pregnant and then at 2 months was plunged into despair when the fetus aborted. Obsessed with grief over her loss, she had even become estranged from some family members. She had been to several conventional talk therapists with no positive results.

I suggested that I could help his daughter via Skype, though I hadn’t done a Skype session before. She was willing, and I immediately devised a way to utilize her Anglican upbringing as a resource. After establishing rapport by commiserating with her for a while, I asked her to close her eyes.

“I wonder if you can imagine that there is a special place in heaven, a special place for tiny angels, a lovely place where tiny angels play and sing, a place filled with God’s warm love, a place reserved for special sweet little ones, whom God welcomes when they arrive there unexpectedly. You have a little angel in that special place, do you not? And she is warmly wrapped up in God’s love. Maybe you can imagine her there. I wonder if it would be all right to lift your eyes to heaven where tiny angels sing, instead of dwelling on the tragic loss. You can ask your inner mind, your wise inner mind if that would be all right. And if that is all right with your wise inner mind, perhaps that inner mind will signal yes by letting one of your hands begin to feel very light, almost as if balloons were tied to the fingers and wrist, and start to float, as a way of agreeing about the place where your tiny angel lives embraced in God’s love.”

As tears rolled down her cheeks one of her hands began to float. I could see her breathing soften and deepen, her shoulders relax and her eyes were turned upward. She began to weep, and sigh—the kind of weeping that expresses emotional relief. Then she said, “But I have this sadness in me.”

I said, “Just place your hand where the sad feeling is,” and she placed it on her abdomen. “Now that sad feeling naturally travels upward, does it not?”

She said, “Yes,” and moved her hand to her chest.

“As it travels upward, perhaps you can feel or see it rotating either clockwise or counter-clockwise—which is it?” With her hand she indicated clockwise.

When I said, “Now just reverse the rotation,” she gave a big sigh, and said, “I feel better already.”

“If that sadness comes back just do what you just did; you did it very well the first time.”

Follow-up. She sent me a note of thanks, and her father later sent several emails reporting that she is doing great, once again her happy self, reconciled with family members, enjoying her marriage. It has now been about three months since our session. As the anniversary of the abortion approaches I will contact her and suggest that on that day she will find a special way to focus on her tiny angel in heaven.

 

Announcement

Ron has developed a mental skill called the SLEEP CIRCLE, which he has found to be highly successful with people who want to get control of their sleep without depending on drugs. He is looking for therapists nationwide who want to learn how to teach this skill to clients. You can learn more about this here. If interested, e-mail eldaronquist [at] gmail.com or call him at (805) 796 5027.

 

The new book Waltzing with Wolverines: finding connection and cooperation with troubled teens by Mark Andreas, is now available in paperback, as well as an e-book.

You can read an excerpt from the book on Mark’s blog.

Who do you know who would like to receive a practical and lasting gift for connecting with young people?

Closeout sale on all NLP DVDs and CDs

We virtually never do sales, but we’ve decided to do a “Purple Monday” sale on all our remaining DVDs and CDs. (Steve came up with the name.)

Physical media is going the way of the 8-track in favor of digital downloads and streaming content, so it’s time to clear out the old disks.

All CD and DVD products are 50% off while supplies last, and they are very limited. (With the exception of the Core Transformation DVD set, which is not on sale.) After they are gone, we will only be selling digital downloads and streaming content for video and audio products. (We will still sell paper books, however.)

You can find all our DVDs and CDs in our web store at http://realpeoplepress.com.

Or here’s a complete list of all CDs and DVDs on sale:

If you have questions, you can email our Office Manager Duff: order [at] realpeoplepress.com.